Push Present

by Michelle in ,

Recently I've been seeing blog posts and stories about pregnant women or women who recently gave birth, receiving a 'push present'.  I found this very interesting and decided to dig into this subject.  So, according to Wikipedia, it's a gift given by the new father to the new mother before or after she gives birth, or in the delivery room.  My main objective was to find out where and how this gift giving idea began.  Did pregnant moms of America start this or was this something that was done in other countries?  It seems that the tradition of giving a gift the commemorate the birth has long roots in England and India.  I wasn't surprised to read that in 2005, a jewelry chain in the US marketed diamond earrings with, "She delivered your first born, now give her twins." In 2007, a jewelry and gift store started a push present registry.  There's no evidence that the jewelry industry started the push present to generate more jewelry sales, but I'm sure they have enjoyed the boost in sales.  Linda Murray, executive editor of BabyCenter.com, was quoted saying, "It's more and more an expectation of moms these days that they deserve something for bearing the burden for nine months, getting sick, ruining their body.  The guilt really gets piled on." This doesn't surprise me, nor does the part of the article that states other sources have traced this push present to an increase of assertiveness in these pregnant women that they ask for this present directly, or make the dad-to-be more 'involved' by keeping them informed of the pain and difficulties during their pregnancy and labor.  This just floors me!  For the pregnant women that took out their frustrations on their husbands, did you give him a gift for all he went through?  In society, do we agree to do something and then demand a gift afterward?  As a mother to an almost two month old daughter, I knew what I was signing up for when my husband and I decided to start trying for a family.  For me, I had just lost 70 pounds, which got me to a weight where I felt healthier to begin trying for a baby.  When I reached my goal, I was pregnant within weeks.  I didn't get much time to enjoy my weight loss success and yes, I struggled with that at first.  During my pregnancy, I never got sick and for the most part, I hardly felt pregnant, even when baby girl was developing and making her presence known with my giant prego belly!  Also, this summer was a record hot year and yet I didn't complain.  I did end up on bed rest for the last month of my pregnancy and that didn't make me happy, but I had to trust that the doctor knew what was best for baby girl and I.  After pushing for about two and a half hours the day I was induced, I ended up having a c-section.  So trust me, I'm sure I could plead my case for a 'push present' even though my pregnancy was easy for the most part.  For  me, my present is that sweet baby girl!